When one of my friends told me about this I laughed with her as we expressed how pitiful this young woman was to have gotten this far in life not knowing the obvious answer to this question.
I remember an interview of a woman who was completely paralyzed several years ago. The host asked her how it made her feel when people would compare trials which to them seemed so little in comparison to what she had gone through. Her response surprised the host as it did me. She said, “my trials are not as big as the trial that you are currently going through if it is the biggest thing that you have faced in your life”, in essence saying we all face our “elephants”.
Maybe your elephant is an expensive car repair or maybe it is a failed marriage. Maybe what you are facing seems less significant than your friend who has a terminal illness. Whatever your elephant is, it matters because it matters to you and you matter to God.